Archive of ‘Dating’ category

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30 Ideas For Bringing Romance Back

But although he has been doing a good job of helping me forget the pain and the frustration of my dating experiences that have caused me to harden and to create this tough exterior, I realized I was doing an equally bad job at showing him any sort of affection. To truly change, I thought, I have to not only accept  Read more…

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Chris.

It was not yet winter, but it was certainly getting to that point of desperation where we were scrambling to have fun before Hibernation Season commenced. I was still haunted by Frank, and as had become a depressing cycle of behavior, each man had simply become an ineffectual substitute for Read more…

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He Stands

There he stands–In no way the Prince from childhood fairy tales, In no way the heart-stoppingly charming provider, In no way the gorgeous man who would infiltrate and haunt dreams. His greatest feature is simply that he stands–Sturdy, self-assured, he stands. Yet, he is infamous for his horizontal activity. Read more…

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Ed.

The night of Ed, I had gone on my first post-breakup date with a friend of a friend. It was just for coffee, but it was nice to experience this other part of courting. One consequence of having been in a serious relationship and then dating casually rather than the opposite progression (casually dating and then settling down), was that there were now boys for sex, boys for dating, boys for chatting, and boys for romance–my love life had become compartmentalized. Read more…

You were my first after a six year long relationship. Your predecessor was the love of my life, my first ever. What we had was intense and real, and when it ended, dating was difficult. I didn’t understand how to be single because my identity was so wrapped up in being a part of a couple. And then came New York.

Ryan.

You were my first after a six year long relationship. Your predecessor was the love of my life, my first ever. What we had was intense and real, and when it ended, dating was difficult. I didn’t understand how to be single because my identity was so wrapped up in being a part of a couple. And then came New York. Read more…

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Frank.

It will never be okay that we aren’t together…Recently, I had sex with someone and it was great from the beginning…Our connection was undeniable, but the sex with him was actually better…There was a sense of urgency as you led the way up the steps to your apartment, but once inside, neither of us knew how to proceed. Read more…